Words of Destiny

My business/ministry is called “Words in High Def” so April Shenandoah’s message hit a big button on the keyboard of my soul. Listen to her convincing experiences in my chat with her and read what she has to say below… why she went from actress to evangelist. She reminds us to speak like we really believe God’s promises. “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21.

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Your Tongue Determines Your Destiny

by April Shenandoah

You’ve probably heard the expression,” Be careful what you ask for because you might get it.” My book Your Tongue Determines Your Destiny takes it farther by saying, “What you say is what you get.” I speak from experience! The book offers a Supernatural Plan to put you, the reader, to the test. It has been rewarding to share several of my own Supernatural experiences.

If your life is hectic and you sometimes feel like you have a curse following you, it’s time to start listening to what you are saying and learn about the “POWER of WORDS.” It is a Biblical law that is written in stone. The words you speak today will be the life you live tomorrow!

A few years back, I got out of a sick/death bed by speaking and believing healing scriptures straight from the Bible. When I tapped into God’s promises – taking them literally, the light went on! There is no reason to continue in sickness, poverty, or unsettling relationships when Love, Peace and Joy are the way God meant life to be lived – regardless of life’s challenges.

You will get excited when you read how the God of the universe set this life in to motion.

You will find answers to the WHAT, WHY, WHEN, WHERE and HOW questions of your own life! You have POWER to overcome ALL things, however, the world we all live in spews negative junk that bombards our hearts and minds keeping us defeated, because we buy into it. When you read Your Tongue Determines Your Destiny and implement the principles within the inspired pages you will never be the same. You are a “power plant!” Learn to turn on the switch and your hearts desires will manifest!

The WORD says: My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6) You will gain knowledge concerning Spiritual Law – How you were Wired from Childhood – Forgiveness – Love – Faith – Money – how to Receive Supernaturally…..and your DESTINY!

When you tap into this 2000 year old TRUTH, share it with others!

Unloading “Love” Baggage and Toxic Behavior

Smart, edgy and honest…that’s how I’d describe Love Junkies and my conversation with the author Christy Johnson. If you (or a friend) is stuck in a pattern of seeking love in unhealthy ways from all the wrong people, read below and tune in. Be sure to share this one with your friends.

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Unloading “Love”  Baggage and Toxic Behavior

by Christy Johnson

Have you ever felt like your romantic relationships had a lot in common with the baggage claim at the airport–a constant rotation of luggage loaded down with dirty laundry? They may look good on the outside, but inside they’re loaded down with stinky issues.

I used to wonder why I was so unlucky at love. It took a long time for me to realize that the problem was not the baggage I chose…it was me! My own issues kept me on a merry-go-round of romantic despair. But there is a way to avoid unnecessary heart ache. After many epic failures I learned that the best way to steer clear of relationship disasters is to take a look at my own soul-health.

Why is it so important to look at ourselves? It’s simple: We attract who we are. Unhealthy people attract unhealthy friends and relationships, but healthy people attract healthy friends and mates.

Experts say that we gravitate towards friends and relationships within a ten-point spread of our IQ. We are more naturally comfortable around those with whom we can intellectually relate. Likewise, in the realm of soul-health, we also attract those with whom we are most emotionally compatible. Putting it another way, baggage attracts baggage.

So if you’re tired of hanging out at the baggage claim, it’s time to take a look at your own soul-health. Whether you are believing for a mate or already married, it’s vital to eliminate toxic behaviors that threaten your peace and steal your joy because the health of your relationship will rarely exceed the health of the least healthy partner. That’s why it’s so important to become who you want!

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Healing a Mom’s Shattered Heart

Monica Hawkins endured the unimaginable… her college-bound son was murdered. She shares how God took her through this journey and never left her without hope (right after Jan Dunlap). Read her moving post below.

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A Shattered Heart: A Journey of Hope Trust and Healing

by Monica Hawkins

Though the simple words “why” and “where” in the life of someone who has never experienced a sudden trauma may provoke many emotions, those same words during the grieving process are perplexing and overwhelm the mind and heart. Most of the time during your grieving, your thought life is consumed with the questions “Why?” and “Where are You, God?” As a griever you want to make sense of this sudden tragedy, and you want answers. But no matter how you try to get answers to the questions, the answers never make sense. There lies the battle for you as a griever. You want it to make sense, but how does it make sense that someone’s life was taken in violence? It doesn’t.

For me, “Why?” was always in my heart and mind. Many of us will always struggle with “Why, God?” or “Where are You, God?” I remember being taught that you can ask God why something has happened, but to make sure you have the right motivations. A good man in the Bible named Job began to question God about why he was experiencing so much loss, but it was with the wrong motives. God pulled Job aside and said in so many words, “Let’s talk.” It wasn’t for Job to get understanding, but to put him back in remembrance of who God is. God began to ask Job some “why” and “where were you” questions that Job was not able to answer or understand.

That being said, I knew not to begin my “why” questions in my talks with God with the wrong motivation, but I desperately wanted to know why He had permitted this to happen to Donté. I wanted to understand the purpose. Sounds like a great Christian approach. But the reality was that those questions of “why” and wanting to make sense of all of this overwhelmed my heart. I began to really question God, and not always with the proper motivation. I thank God that He is full of compassion and mercy, because I didn’t really learn from Job’s example.

I would ask God, “Why now? He just turned his life around, and from the investigation, Donté was not the intended target. And why, God, didn’t You answer my prayer that night after Donté called me and I prayed for him? Why do I have to deal with this pain? God, I lived for You with all my heart. God, why my child? Most importantly, God, why didn’t You keep him like You kept the other child that night that got shot, too?” (Understand that by no means did I want the other child to die.)

I felt like Sophia in The Color Purple. She said, “All my life I had to fight.” It seemed that nothing in my life came easy for me, and now when I thought things were looking up, I had to fight again. We had been through so much in our family, and now this.

The second question that continually plagued my heart was, “Where are You, God?” As a griever, especially a born-again Christian, I really wanted to know where God was in all of this. I told God countless times, when the pain was so unbearable, “I can’t feel You there.” The inward thoughts began to consume my heart during those dark days. As I reflected back through my spiritual counseling sessions with my pastor, I began to ask myself how my heart and motivation changed. The intensity of my pain and what I knew about God became a real battle around the sixth of every month. I dreaded the sixth day of each month. That number six reminded me too much of that awful day when I lost my Donté. I began to feel hopeless, because I missed him so much. I would think on how I would never see him graduate from college or get married or grow to be a man. I felt robbed of a future with him.

I would sit many days and look at his pictures. When I would hear of things his friends were doing, I would be very sad. Those thoughts began my journey of feeling hopeless and really questioning God. When I look back in my journal, I read how I cried out to the Lord when those emotions would come. But then my questions slowly changed. I began to question God with the motivation of “Why did You do this to me?”

The Lord would send people to comfort me, but I didn’t really want the comfort. I wanted to make sense of this tragedy. The intensity of the pain was consuming my heart. On top of all of this, I was dealing with the struggle of the physical pain from a fall that I had experienced. I found out later from my doctor that I fell because a chemical imbalance related to this trauma had weakened my legs. Listen to my interview Diane for more details.

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Being a Smart Stepmom

I have not been a stepmom, but I’ve been a stepchild to two stepmoms. I can’t imagine the tiny edge you must walk to get it right. I had a really lively and honest chat with Laura Petherbridge about this that might help…if not you, send it to a friend!

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Top 10 Signs of a Smart Stepmom

by Laura Petherbridge

With the number of stepfamilies growing each year, let’s help the women with stepchildren with a few tips on how to flourish as a stepmom.

A Smart Stepmom:

1. Accepts that forming a healthy stepfamily is a process which requires education, patience, and compassion.

2. Understands that her stepkids are likely to be confused, angry or grieving over the loss of the original family.

3. Recognizes that children have a fierce loyalty to a biological parent—this is true if the parent is absent, abusive, manipulative, unstable, or controlling.

4. Learns how to step back, set boundaries, and let Dad be the parent, even when he doesn’t know how or is unwilling.

5. Allows Dad to have time alone with his children.

6. Grasps that hurting kids are likely to be cruel. She seeks ways to build a bridge with small gestures of love and compassion.

7. Realizes that it’s not a slap in the face when the stepchildren view her as, “My Father’s wife.”

8.  Acknowledges, “The children already have a mother, and it’s not me!!”

9. Stands beside her husband when the former spouse hurls insults, accusations and threats that are aimed at his manhood.

10. Has faith that doing the right thing, even if it hurts, will ultimately bring peace to her home and soul.

Take heart Sister Stepmom, the journey sometimes has bumps and valleys but if you are teachable, willing to define your role, and find the support necessary you can thrive!!

Copyright © 2014 Laura Petherbridge. All rights reserved

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Healing Power of Animals

Anxiety is an emotion for some, but for others it’s a disorder. Jan Dunlap, author of Saved by Gracie, shares about the healing power of interacting with animals. Read Jan’s post below for a little idea of her uplifting personality.

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Are You a Ruminator?
by Jan Dunlap

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3: 5

I’m not a tattoo kind of girl, but if I were, this is the phrase I need written across the palm of my hand. Maybe that way I’d see it all the time and remember that no amount of thinking can change anything, because it’s my over-thinking that tends to get between me and God. Seriously, I could save myself a lot of worry, stress, and heartache if I just stopped thinking about bad things that have already happened and instead just trust God to lead me forward.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

If it does, it’s probably because women are especially prone to over-thinking, or, as it’s been properly termed in psychology, “rumination.” When I first learned of that term while doing research for my memoir, I thought of a cow chewing cud, and sure enough, it’s the same word and same concept – rechewing something over and over, even after you think you’re done with it. That may be the correct way for a cow to digest, but for women, it’s a terrible way to digest – or process – an experience. Instead of moving forward, rumination keeps us trapped in focusing on why a bad thing happened, instead of looking for solutions to avoid it next time around.

It’s a hard habit for women to kick, because women also tend to judge themselves more harshly than others. I know I was raised to be independent and self-reliant. Those are American virtues, after all! As a result, I often think I’m in control, relying on my own “understanding” of a situation, but as the author of Proverbs points out, that’s a mistake I won’t make when I trust in the Lord with all my heart. Note that the Scripture doesn’t tell us to trust in the Lord with all our mind; I’ve been down that road, too, trying to find God through study and intellect, and while I knew a lot about God, I never felt like I really knew God as an intimate friend.

That’s when I realized that all the book learning in the world does not substitute for a real relationship. Trust is about becoming vulnerable to another being, about interacting on a personal basis. It requires paying attention to the now moment, since the present is where we experience God’s presence.

That means that, if we’re deep into rumination, obsessively focused on thinking our way through the past or trying to mentally control our future, we’re missing out on God’s powerful presence right here and now. Yes, God has given women wonderful brains to use – and we should! – but we need to temper our head-strong impulses with a deep heartfelt trust that God is always for us. When we trust in the Lord with all our heart, we don’t need to ruminate, because our past, present, and future, are safe in His care.

“He has promised, and He will do it.” Hebrews 10:23

Besides, chewing cud is so unattractive, don’t you agree?

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Sonflowerz are “Made to Shine”

Not every woman is as fortunate as I am to have grown up with, and still be very close to a sister. Sometimes we all need a sister to help us see our own beauty and potential through the eyes of Christ. Becca and Elissa (The Sonflowerz) are helping young women with this journey through their music, writing and in conferences. Hear what they have to say!

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Sonflowerz are “Made to Shine”

by Becca Nicholson

“I’m smiling because you’re my sister and there’s nothing you can do about it!” With all our flaws, brokenness and busy schedules, it’s hard to know how to make a sisterhood among Christian women (young and old) work. We carry around so many concerns and To-Do lists. God meant for us to be a family – His family! How can we do this with life’s crazy pace and despite our own personal hang-ups?

Meet Becca and Elissa – two very different sisters who found a way to relate and chase their dreams together. From band life, to their own double wedding day, these ladies are making a statement that Christ-like sisterhood can make the world sit up and listen.

Best known for their outstanding harmonies and vertical lyrics, The Sonflowerz bring the term ‘sister-act’ to life. From their early beginnings in 1999 in their church youth band, this award-winning duo has stayed true to their worship band roots. Their dad, the first musician of the family, and British mum, raised the sisters to love music, songwriting and ministry.

The Leander sisters have since hit the road alongside artists Third Day (in London), Building 429, Laura Story, Needtobreathe, Sanctus Real and Sara Groves (on her New England Christmas tour). Leading worship for national event “You and Your Girl”, The Sonflowerz joined forces with LifeWay and author/speaker Vicki Courtney to reach 18,000 moms and daughters in 22 venues, culminating in a nationwide simulcast with 60+ hosting sites.

“Made To Shine” is the Devotional for young women co-written by Elissa and Becca. They are challenging girls and moms everywhere to live and love beyond themselves and their own circumstances. With the grace of God, all things are possible and sometimes it just takes hearing it from a sister in Christ to truly believe it!

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Myths about Dietary Supplements

There is an ongoing debate about whether “alternative” and naturopathic treatments are valid. Holistic clinical pharmacist, Founder & CEO of Rx Integrative Solutions Dr. Cathy Rosenbaum joins me on August 9th. Hear a unique, refreshing, and thought provoking discussion on debunking myths about herbs, vitamins, and other dietary supplements from the perspective of a pharmacist.

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Debunking Myths about Herbs, Vitamins, and Other Dietary Supplements

by Dr. Cathy Rosenbaum

Dr. Rosenbaum is a traditionally trained pharmacist with practice experience in the pharmaceutical industry, academia, hospital based practice, medication quality and safety, and holistic medicine consulting. In 2002, Dr. Cathy had the privilege of traveling to China to study herbal research and global health care solutions. This was a trip that would change her professional life & mission forever and bring her closer to Christ in the workplace.

She believes that Americans are worshiping at the prescription drug altar and that there is a more scriptural based path to healing through back to basics living and through Christ! There are many types of interventions including supplements and medications for the body, but that’s only the beginning. Emotional and spiritual healing must be addressed as well.

Dr. Cathy works with traditionally trained physicians and non traditional medicine practitioners in helping people navigate through the health care maze. She stands in the gap between both professional worlds as a patient and physician advocate. Please visit Dr. Cathy’s website at www.rxintegrativesolutions.com for more information on her private wellness consultations.

*Share your thoughts on vitamins, herbs and other natural remedies. Ask Dr. Cathy a question you’ve been trying to get answered.

Headaches – A Pain in the Neck?

Since 90% of the population has a headache (at least occasionally) this topic should be of interest to most people. Dr. Ajay Yeddu, president of Desert Interventional Spine Consultants is double board certified in anesthesiology and pain management.

He will join me on Bold Living to share some facts about headaches and treatment options you may not be aware of, but are readily available.

First, some facts you may not know. The most common types of headaches are tension, cluster and migraine. With 25% of women and 8% of men getting migraines sometime in their lifetime, this impacts life on many levels. Relationships, parenting and careers are deeply affected by chronic sufferers. Business owners are also interested in seeking help for employees because of the absentee rates.

Other headache types include temporal arteiitis, trigeminal neuralgia, concussion/SAH/tumor, occipital neuralgia, TMJ /dental issues/vision problem and cervicogenic headaches. Big, scary words that have little meaning unless you’ve had a diagnoses and are being treated for one of them.

When you have terrible headache pain that disables you, the first stop is often a neurologist. These docs are skilled and knowledgeable about all-things-brain. Unfortunately some headaches aren’t truly brain issues. Cervical facet joints often play a major role in headaches and this is a structural problem in the neck. In this case you may need a variety of treatments that some neuro docs overlook.

Dr. Yeddu specializes in treatment of facet disease and occipital neuralgia. It is so important to sufferers I’ve spoken with that someone understands how devastating chronic headaches can be and to be given hope. Dr. Yeddu believes that most headaches…even those elusive, persistent ones…can be treated effectively. Don’t give up!

*Share your comments or headache experiences below to give or receive encouragement. You are absolutely not alone!

 

 

Stretch, Drink and Eat for Health

As life gets busier, taking care of ourselves seems to elude us. “I don’t have time” is the stock response for most of us. The truth is if we don’t make time for our health, we may have less time on earth. Fitness expert Christina Ratusznik shares some straight-forward steps to take.

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Three Transformative Steps Toward Health
by Christina Ratusznik

Thank you Diane Markins for having me on the show. I love that part of your Bold Living is to encourage healthful choices in your listeners. Honoring our bodies honors God!

To begin investing in your health, here are a few simple things to consider:

1. Yoga is a holistic approach not only to complete fitness but also a means to get you to a deep place of meditation where you can focus the mind on spending time with Christ. The postures, breath work, and direction of the mind allow students to reap the benefits of a full body workout as they quiet the mind and listen to what Christ has to say. I focus on teaching my students techniques to find their way to this calmness and peace of mind while ensuring they get the workout that their body needs at the same time.

2. Drinking raw juices is a great way to ensure you are getting all of your essential vitamins and minerals. Each 16 oz bottle of Nourish juice or raw milk contains pounds and pounds of veggies that consumed in original form would be almost impossible to take in all at once. In addition, by consuming the foods as a juice the nutrients reach the blood stream much more quickly so the body realizes the benefits more quickly than it would if it had to digest the whole foods.

3. Project 10 Challenge is a line of supplements and healthy snacks and meals that help individuals to reach their weight loss goals while helping children in need. For every 10 lbs. lost on the Project 10 Challenge, 30 meals are donated to children in need at a local charity of your choice. These children are also educated about the benefits of healthy nutrition and diet. This is a great motivating factor for people who are trying to lose weight and it is for such a great cause. It is very easy to sign up! Then do 3 steps. 1. Set Your Goal 2. Select Your Meal Kit 3. Enter the Challenge at challenge.com. Then you will be on your way to a healthier life while giving back to those in need.

You can learn more and get advice from Christina at www.FindYourZenWellness.com. Post a comment and she’ll try to answer below!

Using the Power of Your Voice

It’s pretty safe to say most of us agree that our country is far from God and pretty messed up. Don’t write me a nasty note… I know about the many good things going on, but the bad stuff is simply overwhelming sometimes.

That’s why I really appreciate what evangelist Adrian Moldovan spells out in his book Tell Hell No! He believes that through a relationship with Jesus, knowing and speaking His truth… we can turn things around.

He says that people of all political persuasions seem to disagree on things that were previously fundamental to everyone’s core beliefs. He points out that we spend money on ridiculous things (billions on pets and research of plants that may become endangered).

In a chat with him, Moldovan shares three effective steps to transforming your life, family and nation. All of these easy steps involve using the power of your voice to influence others and create changes in the culture of our lives.

This is an interview that will inspire you to take action and get excited for the results. Don’t miss it!

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