“As You Wish…”

Reblogged from Words in High Def

One of my all-time favorite movies is The Princess Bride. “As you wish” is something our hero, Wesley, says to his beloved Buttercup throughout the story. He wants to do everything in his power to make her wishes come true.

That’s a lovely story, but in reality, wishes don’t come true just because we wish them.

How often do you say, “I wish…”? I wish I had whiter teeth… I wish I could lose weight… I wish my marriage was better… I wish I had a better job… I wish I was making a difference for Christ…

“I wish” may be simply an expression, but at the core, it reveals a longing of your heart.

I want to challenge you (as I’ve recently challenged myself) to delete “I wish” from your spoken and thought vocabulary.

Wishing doesn’t change anything. Change requires intention and action. So first identify what you find yourself wishing (longing, dreaming) for, then begin to devise a plan to make some progress that will lead to contentment.

Here’s a suggestion of how to transform wishing (fantasy) into reality:
• Think of three little changes or steps you could take in a purposeful direction toward your goal.
Commit to doing these things in writing. Maybe even make it a prayer request to partner with God. It’s hard to make changes or progress without a little divine intervention!
• Recruit an accountability/prayer partner to keep you honest, encourage you and pray for you.
• After you’ve been successful and consistent with these little steps for a month or so, come up with three more and repeat the process. Pretty soon you’ll be a little (or a lot) closer to realizing your wish.

Wishing is a waste of time and energy. It also focuses on what we lack rather than what we already possess. Unfulfilled longing breeds discontentment, which robs us of our peace, contentment and joy. Not a very Christ-honoring way to live, is it?

If you aren’t willing to make changes, consider targeting your energy on contentment with your current status. Sometimes what we have is enough.

When our first desire is to love God and love others all our wishes will likely come true. Love never fails.

“May He grant you your heart’s desire and fulfill all your plans!” Psalm 20:4

Share what you’ve been wishing for.

  • Christi taylor

    This is fabulous Diane. I was discussing something similar just last night with a client. So many of us would like to see changes in our life. What we typically do is pray and ask God to change us. Specifically we were talking about praying and asking God to help us lose weight, get healthy, or to take away an illness.

    As I shared with my client, we must be reminded that God gave us everything we need to make changes in our lives. When we pray for God to change us, without taking our own steps of discipline, we are asking him to supply us with the avenue for change, and to supernaturally do the work for us. I believe that God gives us everything that
    we need first, then we must take the steps (as you mentioned) along with God’s promises and encouragement to achieve our goals. My 2 cents!

    Christi Taylor
    Nutrition and Fitness Consultant

    • Diane Markins

      Thanks Christi. Your client is blessed to have someone to offer such good insight. God can do anything but He loves us to join Him in the process to let our gifts shine.

  • Holly T. Ashley

    Thank you Diane! Your always inspiring! And so blunt!

    • Diane Markins

      You don’t seem to hold back much either Holly! As long as our words are filled with truth and love, why not cut to the chase, right?

      • Holly T. Ashley


  • Virginia Johnson-Hamlin

    The words “I wish” leave room for doubt, but nothing is impossible through Christ as long as it is part of His plan for your life. Wishing is a weapon used against you by the enemy to keep you stuck. Sharing this post. Thank you! 😉

    • Diane Markins

      Ginny, I agree 100%! The enemy targets our desires, distorts and magnifies them. Making certain that they line up with God’s best is a solid battle plan.

  • Love the encouragement and advice you shared, Diane! I’m guilty of wasting my time just saying “I wish.” Thank you for motivating us to move forward on our spiritual journey and put our faith in action.

    By the way, I encouraged the women in my class this past Tuesday to learn more about you and your ministry!

    • Diane Markins

      Danielle, I have never met a person who doesn’t say it (or think it) once in a while. Thanks for affirming me!

  • Dena

    I love your comment about wishing…..”Wishing is a waste of time and energy. It also focuses on what we lack rather than what we already possess. Unfulfilled longing breeds discontentment, which robs us of our peace and joy.”

    • Diane Markins

      Thanks Dena. It seems so obvious, but sometimes we have focus on those really basic truths in order to make valuable progress!