Culture Shock for Amish Boy –Girl Gone Wild

Traveling to a foreign country can produce serious culture shock. That’s how people coming “out of Amish” feel. Brenda Nixon shares one such traumatic experience in the post below. (It’s also a wakeup call to moms of preteen/teen girls.) The “Beyond Buggies & Bonnets” blogger shares on Bold Living.

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Wise and Naïve (Culture Shock)
by Brenda Nixon

Our house-guest is wise in many ways. Growing up Amish, he knows about farming, fertilizers, hard work, hunting, honesty, custom cabinetry, wildlife, and resourcefulness.

He’s also naïve about the cruel minds on the “outside.” He has little experience with boy-crazed girls who throw their body at his; grabbing his hand, touching him, rubbing up against him, and the most aggressive offender who insisted he hug her good-bye after church. Her demands are counter-cultural to him; Amish don’t display physical or verbal affection. This teeny-bopper made him uncomfortable by trying to coerce his physical conduct.

Although my husband and I advised him to ignore her predatory behavior, he thought it polite to return her constant incoming texts and Facebook messages. She sent me a message attempting to pull me into her passionate fantasy – ignored. When tired of her voracious appetite for him, he rebuffed her and walked away. She continued texting him, without reply. Then she called the police and alleged he was harassing her.

An officer showed up on our doorstep warning him to cease contact with her – isn’t that what he’d previously tried? This “Mom” would love to have a face-to-face with the over-hormonal, under-disciplined girl about her wild advances and intent to inflict emotional harm. But God reminded me that He was with Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego in the fiery furnace (Daniel 3:14-29); He is with our family in her furnace. We’re trusting God walks us out of this attempt to burn our lad without even the smell of smoke.

In helping those who flee the infinite rules of the Amish, I’m learning that their naiveté sometimes causes them pain from outsiders who lack any rules.

Have you experienced culture shock? Have you seen the behavior in young women Brenda describes? (I certainly have!) Share a comment below, ask Brenda a question and be sure to read her wonderful blog.

  • Diane Markins

    Brenda, thanks for this post and for all the insight you bring about Amish.

    • Happy to share my stories Diane. Thanks for inviting me now twice(!) onto your show.

  • Debra Elliott

    What a great reminder. Although I have not had this experience, when I was 15 my family moved from Alabama to Oregon; talk about culture shock!

    • Thanks for your comment Debra. I wouldn’t want to be a teen today but hopefully I can come along side those who leave the Amish and need a journey mate for the first few years of adjustment.

      • Debra Elliott

        I know. My grandson will be a teen in a few years and it’s really scary to think what society will be like in 4 years.

  • Powerful topic! Sadly, these two extremes can both leave us with feelings of sadness. May we all learn how to build healthy relationships that include the Lord guiding us on how to physically, emotionally, and spiritually connect with someone.

    • Thanks for reading Danielle. Yup, building healthy relationships is an art and a dependency on the One who desires relationship with us.