Toneal Jackson

Learning How to Please Your Husband

When I got married, I was very young; so needless to say, there was a lot that I had to learn. The first thing I learned early on-being a girlfriend was not the same as being a wife. As a girlfriend, you had the opportunity to only deal with your mate if and when you wanted; as a wife, your spouse is always there (for better or worse)!

I have been married for 10 years, and over the course of that time period, I’ve gained some insight. So today, I would like to share some of that knowledge with you.

1) Never assume you know it all. Everyday there will be a new lesson that must be learned; you must be willing to learn it.

2) Just because it works for you, doesn’t mean it will work for your partner-and vice versa.I can’t tell you how many headaches and heartaches I could’ve saved myself had I just asked my husband if the behaviors I displayed were necessary for his happiness. I always thought that since the things I did were things I liked, it just stood to reason that he’d like them too. So I’d find myself upset because he never complimented me on the many tasks I had completed, yet complained about the things I didn’t. Lesson learned: find out what pleases your partner, and make that a priority.

3) Communicate effectively with your partner. Many times disagreements ensue because of lack of understanding, or miscommunication. Leave no question unanswered; don’t feel that your partner will think less of you because you ask questions. More questions now will equal less arguments later.

4) Keep others out of your business. Whether parents, children, coworkers, in-laws, or exes, no one should be as or more involved in your relationship with your spouse than you are. Your vow was made with your spouse. People can give advice, but know how, when, and if to implement it into your own relationship. Many times heeding to the wrong advice can make a bad situation much worse.

These are just a few tips to help improve your relationship. For additional assistance, visit my website.